Perfectionism? No, thanks.

Recently, on many blogs, but also in magazines, biographies and self-help books there is a lot of talk about self-discipline, organizing our priorities, overcoming the laziness... in general, about pushing ourselves harder. 

Almost from everywhere I hear the repetitive slogans such as "pull yourself together", "you can do it better" and the immortal "if you work hard enough, you can achieve anything". 

I got the feeling that nowadays there is some kind of fetishism around hard work. Being ’busy’ is good, desirable, necessary. We really don’t have to look far to see examples of people extolling the virtues of extremely hard work. There are dozens of books written about millionaire's and successful people’s daily routine - rising at 6am and doing 10 kilometers run. Staying in the office until everyone else has left, finishing one last task. Neglecting friends and family to pursue your dreams. Sleeping 4 hours a night.  

There is so much pressure in it, don’t you think?

  

Just so I am clear: I truly believe that we can do a lot. That each of us can turn his or her life around if there is such a need. But I would rather not listen to the whispers of disgusting and destructive self-indulgence. Nor those telling us how good it is to implement the discipline in every single part of our live. 

In my opinion similar approach does not leave any room for the real joy in life and, what’s more important, can be really dangerous for our mental health. I disagree with treating yourself in an oppressive way just as much as I disagree with beating up a child nor animal cruelty. People who are extremely afraid of weakness, and who are disgusted by that weakness, are very unhappy and disturbed people. 

However, I want to stress this post isn't about making excuses. We have to maintain elemental honesty with ourselves. If you promise yourself something, keep your word. Take care of your interests and personal development. Just remember that sometimes something simply doesn't work out and it really doesn't mean that you're not strong enough or smart enough to do it.  

Life isn’t only about achieving your goals, it is also about being. I highly recommend you the video below :)